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Re: tw suicide.
thankyou everyone. she keeps msg saying triggering stuff to me and it’s rly triggering. so I have taken a step back bc it’s to much for me to handle. thankyou everyone who has responded
Hey @eylah, I know I'm late to this thread but I'm truly sorry to hear that you had to go through that, it must have been incredibly difficult. It's absolutely acceptable to take a step back, and it's really good of you to protect your own wellbeing. I hope you're doing alright - take care of yourself, and remember we're here for you
Re: tw suicide.
Hey @eylah it sounds like last night was a heavy evening and you did really well to be there for your friend. How are you feeling today?
Whilst we aren't able to support your friend directly unless they use our services, I wanted to let you know that when someone is currently in crisis, the first thing we recommend is urging them to contact crisis services themselves - Samaritans, Papyrus, Shout, 999 or A&E. Is this something you felt able to do?
If they don't want to, that's okay. It's not your responsibility to keep them safe, and sometimes the best thing is to allow someone to make their own decision. People tend to be more capable than we give them credit for, even in crisis, and it's okay to give them and you some space.
Another option is to contact 999 for your friend yourself. We would only recommend this if you think they are in immediate danger and need emergency services to intervene directly.
I'm hearing that you have a lot on right now and this might've felt like an added stress. It's also really kind and considerate that despite this, you want to be there for your friend because she matters so much. You're right that she matters, but so do you Eylah. It's really important you're able to keep yourself safe too. Your wellbeing and emotional safety is important, which means getting the support you need.
You can contact crisis services to ask for help supporting someone else, and they'll happily chat to you. But, if you feel you've reached the end of what you can do, it's okay to say that and set some boundaries for now. That might mean saying something like "I care about you, and I feel that I've done what I can as your friend right now, so I'm going to take a step back from this conversation". This can help give you the space to step away for now, because you are not a crisis worker Eylah. Being there as a friend is one thing, but there's a reason why dedicated crisis services require a lot of training and supervision to work on: it's difficult and requires a lot of support to do long-term.
How does this feel Eylah? We'll be here for you today on the boards and in our Support Thread 11am-12:30pm if you want to share a little more how you're doing.
Whilst we aren't able to support your friend directly unless they use our services, I wanted to let you know that when someone is currently in crisis, the first thing we recommend is urging them to contact crisis services themselves - Samaritans, Papyrus, Shout, 999 or A&E. Is this something you felt able to do?
If they don't want to, that's okay. It's not your responsibility to keep them safe, and sometimes the best thing is to allow someone to make their own decision. People tend to be more capable than we give them credit for, even in crisis, and it's okay to give them and you some space.
Another option is to contact 999 for your friend yourself. We would only recommend this if you think they are in immediate danger and need emergency services to intervene directly.
I'm hearing that you have a lot on right now and this might've felt like an added stress. It's also really kind and considerate that despite this, you want to be there for your friend because she matters so much. You're right that she matters, but so do you Eylah. It's really important you're able to keep yourself safe too. Your wellbeing and emotional safety is important, which means getting the support you need.
You can contact crisis services to ask for help supporting someone else, and they'll happily chat to you. But, if you feel you've reached the end of what you can do, it's okay to say that and set some boundaries for now. That might mean saying something like "I care about you, and I feel that I've done what I can as your friend right now, so I'm going to take a step back from this conversation". This can help give you the space to step away for now, because you are not a crisis worker Eylah. Being there as a friend is one thing, but there's a reason why dedicated crisis services require a lot of training and supervision to work on: it's difficult and requires a lot of support to do long-term.
How does this feel Eylah? We'll be here for you today on the boards and in our Support Thread 11am-12:30pm if you want to share a little more how you're doing.
Katie
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Re: tw suicide.
hey @eylah - hopefully your friend is safe now and you are in a more calm and comfortable position. You are an amazing friend and they are lucky to have someone like you looking after them with so much love. Remember to take care of yourself too as this can be an overwhelming situation for anyone. We are all here for you
Re: tw suicide.
Hey @eylah, I'm sorry to hear about your friend, that sounds like a really scary situation. How are things now? You deserve to take care of yourself too, we're all here to support you
63marie
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 10.11.25
That sounds great @eylah , the Northern Lights there seem breathtaking.
I hope it all comes together and that you are able to make the trip.
@Cutelivejazz
I hear you Jazz and that sounds very heavy. Books can hit us deeply and stay with us long after we’ve finished them, especially when we’re already feeling emotional. They can be powerful like that, revealing things we didn’t expect to see. Please know that you are not a bother at all. You matter here and you are more than welcome to share your feelings and what is on your mind. I send a virtual hug your way and am here to talk if you would like.
I hope it all comes together and that you are able to make the trip.
@Cutelivejazz
I hear you Jazz and that sounds very heavy. Books can hit us deeply and stay with us long after we’ve finished them, especially when we’re already feeling emotional. They can be powerful like that, revealing things we didn’t expect to see. Please know that you are not a bother at all. You matter here and you are more than welcome to share your feelings and what is on your mind. I send a virtual hug your way and am here to talk if you would like.
Ech0
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Re: HR saying i didn't declare my needs when I did-- Passing probabation in question
@Invisible_me - fingers crossed it all goes well for you today and your whole probaiton goes well and you pass. wishing you the best of luck
Re: getting a job in the nhs
fingers crossed you get a job in the NHS - you've put so much in already when applying for them. And if the age thing does become an issue, it's always important to keep in mind that you have so much time ahead of you, and even if they say no now, there's plenty opportunity in the future
we are all wishing you the best of luck with it though - they'd be lucky to have someone like you on their team
we are all wishing you the best of luck with it though - they'd be lucky to have someone like you on their team
Re: Balancing support and self-care
I think the links and advice Katie has sent are really good.
For me, I've been on here supporting people (trying to at least) for over 3 years now and for me, it's all about the headspace I'm in. If i can feel it in myself that I'm in a good headspace to offer other people support, comfort or advice, then I'll log on here and reply to posts etc. And if i'm not in the right mindset, or I'm busy or whatever else, I know there is no pressure for me to log on etc.
As for supporting the people I know in my personal life, I think i balance it by always making time to just relax and take time for myself too. As our own mental health matters just as much as everyone elses
For me, I've been on here supporting people (trying to at least) for over 3 years now and for me, it's all about the headspace I'm in. If i can feel it in myself that I'm in a good headspace to offer other people support, comfort or advice, then I'll log on here and reply to posts etc. And if i'm not in the right mindset, or I'm busy or whatever else, I know there is no pressure for me to log on etc.
As for supporting the people I know in my personal life, I think i balance it by always making time to just relax and take time for myself too. As our own mental health matters just as much as everyone elses
Re: volunteering
toffuna101 wrote: »i signed up to become an nspcc schools volunteer. i know i said i wouldnt apply to volunteer roles anymore in my jobs post however im interested in doing this. i want to help children learn about how to speak out and stay safe.
That sounds really cool! I'm proud of you for working so hard applying for different roles, I'm sure it'll pay off